To the Woman Who Forgot Herself Part 1

[00:18.41]‘Karibuni’ (Welcome) to a new series of
‘To the Woman Who Forgot Herself’.
[00:25.45]There’s going to be five episodes.
[00:28.85]I know this will heal a lot of women, so
walk this journey with me.
[00:37.13]The first episode, which is today,
is going to be ‘You Matter, Too’.
[00:44.73]So, to the woman who forgot herself:
You wake up every morning
[00:50.57]and pour into everyone else, kids,
spouse, work, family, friends.
[00:57.73]And somewhere along the way,
you disappeared.
[01:02.77]So this one is for you.
[01:05.21]You check on everyone.
[01:06.15]“Did you eat?”
– “Did you do your homework?” –
[01:09.89]“Are you okay?” But listen to me.
[01:15.61]When is the last time someone asked you?
[01:20.13]You became mom, you became wife, and you
became the strong one, the reliable one.
[01:27.73]And those titles, honestly, are beautiful.
[01:31.81]But they are not your whole identity.
[01:37.29]You used to have dreams
that kept you up at night.
[01:39.97]You used to laugh louder.
[01:41.97]You used to have a favourite song, a
favourite place that was just yours.
[01:47.49]Now you can’t even remember
what you like to do when no one needs you.
[01:52.81]You know, you look in the mirror and you
think, “When did I get so tired?”
[01:57.41]It’s not just lack of sleep, eh?
[01:59.85]It’s that you’ve been carrying everyone,
and no one has been carrying you.
[02:07.73]Listen to me.
[02:09.65]You matter, too!
[02:13.41]Not just when you’re useful
and not just when you’re giving.
[02:18.09]You matter when you’re resting,
when you’re empty, and even
[02:23.57]when you have nothing to give.
[02:26.85]You’re not a bad woman for feeling lost.
[02:31.09]You’re a human woman who has been selfless
for too long without being refilled.
[02:39.29]Taking care of yourself is
not taking it away from them.
[02:43.49]It’s actually what allows
you to keep showing up.
[02:48.81]There’s a time we said,
you can’t pour from an empty cup.
[02:53.69]But when you’ve been trying for years,
you have been pouring from an empty cup.
[03:03.49]So today, one small thing
that is just for you.
[03:09.49]Do just one thing.
[03:12.45]A walk alone, your favourite tea,
journaling, music that
[03:18.73]you really love, dance.
[03:22.49]Because you’re not just someone’s mom,
someone’s wife, someone’s sister,
[03:25.97]someone’s daughter, someone’s friend.
[03:29.21]You are you, and you are still there, and
[03:36.09]it’s time to come back home to yourself.