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'Karibuni' (Welcome) to a new series of
'To the Woman Who Forgot Herself'.

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There's going to be five episodes.

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I know this will heal a lot of women, so
walk this journey with me.

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The first episode, which is today,
is going to be 'You Matter, Too'.

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So, to the woman who forgot herself:
You wake up every morning

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and pour into everyone else, kids,
spouse, work, family, friends.

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And somewhere along the way,
you disappeared.

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So this one is for you.

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You check on everyone.

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"Did you eat?"
- "Did you do your homework?" -

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"Are you okay?" But listen to me.

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When is the last time someone asked you?

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You became mom, you became wife, and you
became the strong one, the reliable one.

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And those titles, honestly, are beautiful.

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But they are not your whole identity.

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You used to have dreams
that kept you up at night.

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You used to laugh louder.

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You used to have a favourite song, a
favourite place that was just yours.

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Now you can't even remember
what you like to do when no one needs you.

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You know, you look in the mirror and you
think, "When did I get so tired?"

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It's not just lack of sleep, eh?

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It's that you've been carrying everyone,
and no one has been carrying you.

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Listen to me.

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You matter, too!

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Not just when you're useful
and not just when you're giving.

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You matter when you're resting,
when you're empty, and even

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when you have nothing to give.

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You're not a bad woman for feeling lost.

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You're a human woman who has been selfless
for too long without being refilled.

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Taking care of yourself is
not taking it away from them.

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It's actually what allows
you to keep showing up.

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There's a time we said,
you can't pour from an empty cup.

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But when you've been trying for years,
you have been pouring from an empty cup.

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So today, one small thing
that is just for you.

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Do just one thing.

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A walk alone, your favourite tea,
journaling, music that

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you really love, dance.

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Because you're not just someone's mom,
someone's wife, someone's sister,

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someone's daughter, someone's friend.

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You are you, and you are still there, and

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it's time to come back home to yourself.