Parenting Part 1

[00:00:17.49]Welcome back to Rooted&Real.
[00:00:20.41]We’re going to do five
episodes on ‘Parenting’.
[00:00:24.25]The first one is,
‘You Cannot Pour From an Empty Cup’.
[00:00:30.41]This is for real but tired parents.
[00:00:36.61]So to every tired parent,
you can’t pour from an empty cup.
[00:00:44.25]Listen here, I
see you running on 3 hours of sleep and
[00:00:49.89]cold coffee,
and I need to tell you something.
[00:00:54.29]You cannot pour from an empty cup.
[00:00:59.25]We’ve been told that good
parents give everything.
[00:01:03.25]All your time,
all your energy, all of you.
[00:01:07.85]So what happens is that we
feel guilty for resting.
[00:01:12.01]We feel guilty for a shower alone.
[00:01:18.93]But it doesn’t have to be like that.
[00:01:23.21]We also feel guilty for just
saying, “I need 10 minutes.”
[00:01:27.57]But listen, exhaustion
isn’t a badge of honour.
[00:01:32.57]Burnout doesn’t make you
a better mom or a better dad.
[00:01:37.09]It just makes you a resentful one.
[00:01:40.81]So here’s the truth.
[00:01:43.05]Your kids don’t need a martyr.
[00:01:45.93]They need a regulated adult.
You hear me?
[00:01:50.01]A mom who slept is more
patient than a mom who didn’t.
[00:01:54.41]A dad who took a walk is more
present than a dad running on fumes.
[00:02:00.01]So taking care of you is not selfish.
[00:02:03.81]It’s just maintenance.
[00:02:06.49]It’s how you keep showing up
for them without losing yourself.
[00:02:10.89]That’s parenting.
[00:02:13.21]That’s a 20-minute nap.
That’s okay.
[00:02:17.49]That therapy appointment,
that’s also parenting.
[00:02:21.69]That “No” to one more thing,
that’s parenting too.
[00:02:27.09]So stop wasting
and stop waiting when things calm down
[00:02:34.73]to rest because you know what?
They won’t.
[00:02:37.57]Not for years.
[00:02:39.17]Ask for help.
[00:02:40.69]Tag your partner, tag your sibling,
tag your other offspring.
[00:02:45.13]Let the dishes sit.
[00:02:46.89]Let them Let them watch one
more show while you breathe.
[00:02:50.89]You are allowed to be a human first.
[00:02:54.65]So to every tired parent,
fill your cup first,
[00:03:00.21]because the best thing you can give
[00:03:02.89]your kids is you, a whole you.
[00:03:10.57]So that’s how it is.