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Welcome back to Rooted&Real.

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We're going to do five
episodes on 'Parenting'.

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The first one is,
'You Cannot Pour From an Empty Cup'.

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This is for real but tired parents.

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So to every tired parent,
you can't pour from an empty cup.

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Listen here, I
see you running on 3 hours of sleep and

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cold coffee,
and I need to tell you something.

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You cannot pour from an empty cup.

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We've been told that good
parents give everything.

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All your time,
all your energy, all of you.

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So what happens is that we
feel guilty for resting.

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We feel guilty for a shower alone.

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But it doesn't have to be like that.

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We also feel guilty for just
saying, "I need 10 minutes."

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But listen, exhaustion
isn't a badge of honour.

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Burnout doesn't make you
a better mom or a better dad.

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It just makes you a resentful one.

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So here's the truth.

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Your kids don't need a martyr.

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They need a regulated adult.
You hear me?

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A mom who slept is more
patient than a mom who didn't.

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A dad who took a walk is more
present than a dad running on fumes.

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So taking care of you is not selfish.

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It's just maintenance.

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It's how you keep showing up
for them without losing yourself.

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That's parenting.

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That's a 20-minute nap.
That's okay.

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That therapy appointment,
that's also parenting.

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That "No" to one more thing,
that's parenting too.

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So stop wasting
and stop waiting when things calm down

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to rest because you know what?
They won't.

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Not for years.

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Ask for help.

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Tag your partner, tag your sibling,
tag your other offspring.

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Let the dishes sit.

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Let them Let them watch one
more show while you breathe.

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You are allowed to be a human first.

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So to every tired parent,
fill your cup first,

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because the best thing you can give

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your kids is you, a whole you.

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So that's how it is.