You Cannot Pour From an Empty Cup

[00:18.73]Hey, this is Lynda, your personal person
from Rooted&Real.
[00:26.93]So we are on the 4th episode of ‘To the
Person Loving Someone Who Is Broken’.
[00:34.85]Now, one reminder,
‘You Cannot Pour From an Empty Cup’.
[00:42.29]‘Sawa’ (okay)?
[00:46.05]When was the last time someone asked you,
“How are you really doing?” Why?
[00:53.45]You’re always the strong one.
[00:56.33]The one who holds everything together.
[00:59.57]You make sure they eat,
you make sure the kids are okay,
[01:02.57]you make sure the rent is paid.
[01:06.53]Even when he spent his share.
[01:09.25]But you, you cry in the shower
so that no one hears you.
[01:15.01]You haven’t laughed freely in months.
[01:18.49]Your friends say you look tired.
[01:21.17]‘Na wewe’ (and you)?
[01:22.09]You say, “Okay…”
[01:24.57]You’re so focused on saving that person
that you forgot you also need saving.
[01:32.25]Here’s the truth:
you cannot pour from an empty cup…
[01:37.69]You cannot keep giving love if you’re
running on emptiness and resentment.
[01:45.17]You need care too, and not later— now.
[01:52.17]That means you need
your own people, your own support system,
[02:00.17]your own therapist, your own pastor,
your own friends
[02:05.69]who won’t judge you for staying.
[02:08.33]That means you need sleep,
you need food that nourishes you,
[02:12.25]you need that walk,
that prayer, that journal.
[02:16.73]Taking care of you is not betraying them.
[02:20.49]Taking care of you
is how you make sure you don’t break
[02:24.69]while loving someone who is broken.
[02:28.05]So today, do one thing just for you.
[02:30.17]Not for them, for you,
because you matter too.
[02:37.69]Not just as their saviour, as you,
a person who also deserves love,
[02:46.25]rest, and care.
[02:50.33]So don’t disappear while trying
to keep them from disappearing.