Its Okay to Stay... It’s Also Okay to Leave

[00:17.49]Hello.
[00:18.89]This is Lynda again on Rooted&Real.
[00:22.01]Thanks for staying me through these
episodes of ‘To The Person Loving
[00:30.53]a Broken Person’.
[00:32.57]This is the final one.
[00:35.45]And today, I’m going
to tell you something.
[00:40.21]‘It’s Okay to Stay… It’s Also Okay to Leave’.
[00:48.05]And that is the hardest truth.
[00:52.93]And no one, I repeat, no one
gets to judge your choice.
[01:00.89]Everyone has an opinion.
[01:03.09]“Leave him.”
– “You deserve better.” – “Stay.
[01:08.61]Marriage is for better, or for worse.
[01:10.65]Love conquers all…”
‘Mavituvitu’ (a lot of things) but
[01:14.17]you see, they don’t live your life.
[01:17.49]They don’t see the 3:00 AM conversations.
[01:19.97]They don’t see the effort
he’s making, even if it’s small.
[01:24.29]They don’t see the trauma, bond, the kids,
the history, the love that is real.
[01:34.13]And the other side,
they don’t see how much you’ve cried,
[01:39.01]how many chances you’ve given,
how much of yourself you’ve lost.
[01:45.37]So you feel guilty if you stay,
it’s like you’re weak.
[01:49.69]And you feel guilty if you leave,
it’s like you abandoned to them.
[01:55.65]Here’s the truth no one tells you:
Staying doesn’t make you weak.
[02:00.81]If you can stay, stay with the boundaries,
with support, with your eyes open,
[02:06.01]and stay because you choose to,
not because you’re scared to leave.
[02:12.89]And if you stay, require change,
not just apologies.
[02:21.49]And leaving doesn’t make you a bad person.
[02:25.73]If you leave, it doesn’t
mean you never loved them.
[02:29.89]It means you loved yourself, too.
[02:33.73]Sometimes the most loving thing is to let
them eat their own bottle
[02:39.65]without you cushioning it.
[02:42.53]Sometimes love means letting go.
[02:48.97]There’s no shame in either choice.
[02:52.45]There’s only shame in
losing yourself completely.
[02:58.77]So whatever you choose, stay or leave,
choose you inside that choice.
[03:08.65]If you stay, don’t stay and die inside.
[03:12.41]Stay and live.
[03:14.29]Stay with conditions.
[03:16.69]If you leave, don’t leave with hate.
[03:20.21]Leave with peace.
[03:21.97]Leave knowing you gave what you could.
[03:27.09]That’s a lot, huh?
[03:29.49]So, to the person loving
someone who’s broken.
[03:34.29]You are brave.
[03:36.65]You are compassionate.
[03:39.41]You are stronger than you know.
[03:44.41]And whatever happens with them,
I hope you don’t forget to love
[03:48.53]the person in the mirror, too.
[03:51.05]This series is for you.
[03:54.13]Save it.
[03:55.45]Share it with someone who
needs to hear this today.
[04:00.61]And please make a comment
and let me know how it is for you.
[04:07.77]Don’t break inside.
[04:10.33]Speak.
[04:11.93]Thank you, guys.
[04:13.85]And I love you all.