Letting Go Part 1

[00:00:16.17]Good morning, good afternoon, good evening, wherever you are.
[00:00:22.12]Welcome back to Rooted&Real.
[00:00:26.09]And this one, we’re going to start with letting go or saying goodbye.
[00:00:35.05]And this is the first episode of that series.
[00:00:39.70]Now, today I buried a friend.
[00:00:44.55]I wasn’t there, but I was watching it on live stream and goodness gracious, it was really,
[00:00:52.66]it was really emotional.
[00:00:55.95]So we’re going to talk about letting go, just by saying goodbye to a loved one.
[00:01:03.100]It hurts.
[00:01:06.39]Let’s not pretend.
[00:01:08.56]It really hurts, especially when you haven’t seen them for a long time and there’re things you
[00:01:14.71]wish to say, the things you wish you did together, wish you never bounced, wish you made that
[00:01:19.88]call.
[00:01:21.59]So some days it feels like a heavy coat that you can’t take off.
[00:01:28.72]Other days for those who’ve lost loved ones, it’s a sharp pain that catches you off guard
[00:01:36.31]in the supermarket, in a song, in their old chair.
[00:01:42.96]You know, where they used to sit.
[00:01:46.80]And if no one’s told you lately, your grief is not too much.
[00:01:55.24]Crying in the shower, forgetting things, even being angry at God, that’s grief.
[00:02:03.76]That’s love with nowhere to go.
[00:02:07.23]And you know something, there’s no timeline.
[00:02:11.56]You don’t get over losing someone.
[00:02:15.39]You learn to carry them differently.
[00:02:21.08]People tell you, you know, be strong, move on.
[00:02:24.96]It’s been months, it’s been years, come on.
[00:02:29.08]You know, it’s, it’s that.
[00:02:36.86]But you know something, your timeline is yours.
[00:02:42.96]Some goodbyes take years to say out loud.
[00:02:47.79]Some you say every morning when you wake up and they’re not there.
[00:02:53.59]And that’s okay too.
[00:02:57.43]So how do we let go without forgetting?
[00:03:04.95]Keep what helps.
[00:03:07.76]Release what hurts.
[00:03:11.39]Keep that sweater.
[00:03:13.67]Keep those recipes.
[00:03:16.76]But release the guilt.
[00:03:20.48]You didn’t fail them by living.
[00:03:24.59]Let them go with love, not with chains.
[00:03:29.08]And you know, the goal is not to forget.
[00:03:32.67]The goal is to remember without it breaking you every time.
[00:03:40.95]Saying goodbye doesn’t mean you love them less.
[00:03:45.11]It means you love them enough to keep living.
[00:03:49.75]Even with the hollow or the void they left.
[00:03:55.32]If you’re in this place right now, I see you.
[00:04:00.56]And I’m not here to rush you.
[00:04:04.40]I’m just here to sit with you in it.
[00:04:07.56]Even for a few minutes.
[00:04:11.27]You are not alone.
[00:04:14.03]And one day, the missing won’t hurt quite as sharp.
[00:04:20.36]I promise, because I’ve been there.
[00:04:23.87]Thanks for listening.
[00:04:26.32]I’ll be here next time when we can talk about letting go of broken relationships.
[00:04:33.64]That is in episode two.
[00:04:37.23]Because a lot of times, nobody says this stuff out loud.