WEBVTT Kind: captions Language: en 00:00:16.170 --> 00:00:22.055 Good morning, good afternoon, good evening, wherever you are. 00:00:22.122 --> 00:00:26.001 Welcome back to Rooted&Real. 00:00:26.094 --> 00:00:34.962 And this one, we're going to start with letting go or saying goodbye. 00:00:35.055 --> 00:00:39.603 And this is the first episode of that series. 00:00:39.697 --> 00:00:44.458 Now, today I buried a friend. 00:00:44.552 --> 00:00:52.563 I wasn't there, but I was watching it on live stream and goodness gracious, it was really, 00:00:52.657 --> 00:00:55.853 it was really emotional. 00:00:55.947 --> 00:01:03.905 So we're going to talk about letting go, just by saying goodbye to a loved one. 00:01:03.999 --> 00:01:06.299 It hurts. 00:01:06.393 --> 00:01:08.466 Let's not pretend. 00:01:08.559 --> 00:01:14.618 It really hurts, especially when you haven't seen them for a long time and there're things you 00:01:14.712 --> 00:01:19.781 wish to say, the things you wish you did together, wish you never bounced, wish you made that 00:01:19.875 --> 00:01:21.279 call. 00:01:21.587 --> 00:01:28.622 So some days it feels like a heavy coat that you can't take off. 00:01:28.715 --> 00:01:36.219 Other days for those who've lost loved ones, it's a sharp pain that catches you off guard 00:01:36.312 --> 00:01:42.866 in the supermarket, in a song, in their old chair. 00:01:42.960 --> 00:01:46.705 You know, where they used to sit. 00:01:46.798 --> 00:01:55.144 And if no one's told you lately, your grief is not too much. 00:01:55.238 --> 00:02:03.664 Crying in the shower, forgetting things, even being angry at God, that's grief. 00:02:03.758 --> 00:02:07.141 That's love with nowhere to go. 00:02:07.235 --> 00:02:11.461 And you know something, there's no timeline. 00:02:11.555 --> 00:02:15.300 You don't get over losing someone. 00:02:15.394 --> 00:02:20.984 You learn to carry them differently. 00:02:21.078 --> 00:02:24.863 People tell you, you know, be strong, move on. 00:02:24.957 --> 00:02:28.982 It's been months, it's been years, come on. 00:02:29.076 --> 00:02:36.486 You know, it's, it's that. 00:02:36.860 --> 00:02:42.866 But you know something, your timeline is yours. 00:02:42.959 --> 00:02:47.694 Some goodbyes take years to say out loud. 00:02:47.788 --> 00:02:53.499 Some you say every morning when you wake up and they're not there. 00:02:53.592 --> 00:02:57.337 And that's okay too. 00:02:57.431 --> 00:03:04.854 So how do we let go without forgetting? 00:03:04.947 --> 00:03:07.663 Keep what helps. 00:03:07.756 --> 00:03:11.301 Release what hurts. 00:03:11.394 --> 00:03:13.574 Keep that sweater. 00:03:13.668 --> 00:03:16.664 Keep those recipes. 00:03:16.757 --> 00:03:20.382 But release the guilt. 00:03:20.476 --> 00:03:24.502 You didn't fail them by living. 00:03:24.595 --> 00:03:28.982 Let them go with love, not with chains. 00:03:29.076 --> 00:03:32.580 And you know, the goal is not to forget. 00:03:32.674 --> 00:03:40.859 The goal is to remember without it breaking you every time. 00:03:40.953 --> 00:03:45.019 Saying goodbye doesn't mean you love them less. 00:03:45.112 --> 00:03:49.660 It means you love them enough to keep living. 00:03:49.753 --> 00:03:55.224 Even with the hollow or the void they left. 00:03:55.317 --> 00:04:00.466 If you're in this place right now, I see you. 00:04:00.560 --> 00:04:04.305 And I'm not here to rush you. 00:04:04.399 --> 00:04:07.462 I'm just here to sit with you in it. 00:04:07.555 --> 00:04:11.180 Even for a few minutes. 00:04:11.273 --> 00:04:13.935 You are not alone. 00:04:14.029 --> 00:04:20.261 And one day, the missing won't hurt quite as sharp. 00:04:20.355 --> 00:04:23.779 I promise, because I've been there. 00:04:23.872 --> 00:04:26.226 Thanks for listening. 00:04:26.320 --> 00:04:33.543 I'll be here next time when we can talk about letting go of broken relationships. 00:04:33.636 --> 00:04:37.140 That is in episode two. 00:04:37.234 --> 00:04:41.862 Because a lot of times, nobody says this stuff out loud.