Dads Who Are Really Trying Part 5

[00:17.49]Hey, Lynda, again.
[00:19.81]This is the last episode of
To the Dad, to that Dad Who’s Trying.
[00:30.57]Listen, they’re watching how you love.
[00:36.77]Not just what you say, but how you live.
[00:41.97]Your son is learning how to
be a man by watching you.
[00:45.97]Your daughter is learning what love should
look like by watching how you
[00:50.77]love their mother and them.
[00:54.29]You think they don’t notice, but they do.
[00:58.13]They notice how you talk to
their mom when you’re tired.
[01:00.81]They notice if you say thank you
and please at home,
[01:05.97]they notice if you can say sorry.
[01:09.17]They notice if you pray.
[01:12.41]They notice if you’re kind to the ‘mama
mboga’ (green grocer) or
[01:16.25]to the ‘watchie’ (watchman),
or to your ‘boda guy’ (motorcycle rider).
[01:22.45]They’re watching if you keep your word.
[01:25.45]You are the first definition
of what a man is to them.
[01:30.41]And that is a heavy job,
but also a beautiful privilege.
[01:36.73]You don’t have to be rich.
[01:39.37]You don’t have to be famous.
[01:41.85]You just have to show them what a good
man looks like when no one is watching.
[01:48.21]So love their mother well,
even if things are hard.
[01:53.61]Show respect.
[01:55.29]Put your phone down when they talk to you.
[01:57.19]Look them in the eye.
[01:59.13]Keep your promises, even the small ones.
[02:01.89]“I’ll be home at 6,” be home at 6.
[02:05.69]Let them see you work hard,
but also let them see you laugh.
[02:12.77]Let them see you cry.
[02:15.37]Because one day,
your son will love his wife the way you
[02:20.29]loved his mother,
and your daughter will accept the love she
[02:24.69]thinks she deserves
based on how you loved her.
[02:30.77]You’re not just raising kids.
[02:33.49]You’re raising future husbands, future
wives, future fathers, future mothers.
[02:41.49]So, dad,
I know you feel like you’re not doing
[02:44.73]enough, but that little boy watching you
shave in the morning, to that little girl
[02:51.65]who runs to the door when you come home.
[02:54.53]You are everything.
[02:56.45]You are their hero.
[03:00.01]So keep trying.
[03:02.65]That’s all they ever wanted.
[03:07.49]We see you.
[03:09.57]We honour you.
[03:13.09]So keep going.