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Hey, Lynda, again.

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This is the last episode of
To the Dad, to that Dad Who's Trying.

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Listen, they're watching how you love.

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Not just what you say, but how you live.

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Your son is learning how to
be a man by watching you.

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Your daughter is learning what love should
look like by watching how you

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love their mother and them.

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You think they don't notice, but they do.

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They notice how you talk to
their mom when you're tired.

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They notice if you say thank you
and please at home,

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they notice if you can say sorry.

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They notice if you pray.

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They notice if you're kind to the 'mama
mboga' (street green grocer) or

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to the 'watchie' (watchman),
or to your 'boda guy' (motorcycle rider).

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They're watching if you keep your word.

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You are the first definition
of what a man is to them.

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And that is a heavy job,
but also a beautiful privilege.

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You don't have to be rich.

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You don't have to be famous.

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You just have to show them what a good
man looks like when no one is watching.

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So love their mother well,
even if things are hard.

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Show respect.

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Put your phone down when they talk to you.

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Look them in the eye.

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Keep your promises, even the small ones.

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"I'll be home at 6," be home at 6.

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Let them see you work hard,
but also let them see you laugh.

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Let them see you cry.

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Because one day,
your son will love his wife the way you

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loved his mother,
and your daughter will accept the love she

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thinks she deserves
based on how you loved her.

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You're not just raising kids.

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You're raising future husbands, future
wives, future fathers, future mothers.

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So, dad,
I know you feel like you're not doing

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enough, but that little boy watching you
shave in the morning, to that little girl

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who runs to the door when you come home.

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You are everything.

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You are their hero.

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So keep trying.

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That's all they ever wanted.

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We see you.

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We honour you.

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So keep going.