Dads Who Are Really Trying Part 2

[00:18.73]To the dad who’s trying,
but secretly has no idea what he’s doing.
[00:27.49]It’s actually ‘Okay Not to
Know What You’re Doing’.
[00:31.21]Welcome back, and this is
Lynda with Rooted&Real.
[00:39.69]All the dads are trying to figure,
to figure it out, to figure
[00:47.49]what is it exactly they’re doing or what
is it exactly they’re supposed to do?
[00:53.45]No one gave you a manual, did they?
[00:56.81]Your father probably didn’t
teach you how to be soft.
[01:00.21]He taught you how to be strong.
[01:02.05]How to not cry, how to provide.
[01:05.53]Okay, so now you’re a father yourself,
and you’re googling.
[01:10.89]I’m ‘shrabbing’ (mispronouncing).
You’re googling in your head.
[01:15.01]How do I comfort a crying daughter?
[01:17.65]How do I talk to my teenage son?
[01:21.49]You feel like you’re supposed to have all
the answers because you see,
[01:24.77]you’re the man of the house.
[01:27.05]So when you don’t know, you go quiet,
you get angry, you walk away.
[01:33.89]Not because you don’t care,
but because you don’t know what to say.
[01:40.69]So you know what?
It’s okay to not know what you’re doing.
[01:45.65]It’s okay to say, “Son, I’ve never done
this before either, so let’s
[01:49.89]figure it out together.”
[01:52.53]It’s even okay to say,
“I’m sorry, I handled that badly.
[01:57.97]Can I try again?”
You see, that doesn’t make you weak.
[02:01.85]It makes you real.
[02:03.65]And you know what?
[02:05.41]It makes you safe.
[02:09.37]Your kids don’t need a perfect
dad who never makes mistakes.
[02:12.13]They need an honest dad
who keeps trying after he makes them.
[02:18.97]What am I saying?
[02:20.49]You’re allowed to learn as you go.
[02:22.73]You’re allowed to ask for help,
to watch a video, to ask your wife, “How
[02:27.57]do I do this better?” So the best dads
are not the ones who know everything.
[02:33.53]They’re the ones who never stop
learning how to love their kids better.
[02:39.89]And you know who that is?
[02:42.29]That is you.