To the dad who's trying, but secretly has no idea what he's doing.
It's actually 'Okay Not to Know What You’re Doing'.
Welcome back, and this is Lynda with Rooted&Real.
All the dads are trying to figure, to figure it out, to figure
what is it exactly they're doing or what is it exactly they're supposed to do?
No one gave you a manual, did they?
Your father probably didn't teach you how to be soft.
He taught you how to be strong.
How to not cry, how to provide.
Okay, so now you're a father yourself, and you're googling.
I'm 'shrabbing' (mispronouncing). You're googling in your head.
How do I comfort a crying daughter?
How do I talk to my teenage son?
You feel like you're supposed to have all the answers because you see,
you're the man of the house.
So when you don't know, you go quiet, you get angry, you walk away.
Not because you don't care, but because you don't know what to say.
So you know what? It's okay to not know what you're doing.
It's okay to say, "Son, I've never done this before either, so let's
figure it out together."
It's even okay to say, "I'm sorry, I handled that badly.
Can I try again?" You see, that doesn't make you weak.
It makes you real.
And you know what?
It makes you safe.
Your kids don't need a perfect dad who never makes mistakes.
They need an honest dad who keeps trying after he makes them.
What am I saying?
You're allowed to learn as you go.
You're allowed to ask for help, to watch a video, to ask your wife, "How
do I do this better?" So the best dads are not the ones who know everything.
They're the ones who never stop learning how to love their kids better.
And you know who that is?
That is you.