Heal Without Permission

[00:00:17.77]Hey, this is Rooted&Real and this is Lynda. How are you guys?
[00:00:25.83]So, today’s truth is going to sting just a little.
[00:00:29.76]And here it is: Not everyone will understand your healing.
[00:00:36.38]You see, healing makes people uncomfortable.
[00:00:40.83]When you start setting boundaries, some people will call you selfish.
[00:00:47.90]And when you start choosing peace, some people will call you distant.
[00:00:53.66]When you stop explaining yourself, some people will call you cold.
[00:01:00.96]And they’re not mad at the new you.
[00:01:06.20]They’re mad because they can’t use the old you anymore.
[00:01:14.08]No, you don’t need their permission.
[00:01:18.44]Your healing will confuse people who benefited from your brokenness.
[00:01:25.89]And that’s okay.
[00:01:27.69]You don’t need a crowd to validate your growth.
[00:01:30.73]Some relationships only worked when you were hurting.
[00:01:35.72]But when you heal, the relationship ends.
[00:01:40.96]Not because you changed wrong, but because you changed, period.
[00:01:48.96]Stop shrinking to make them comfortable.
[00:01:52.60]Stop explaining yourself to people who committed themselves to misunderstanding you.
[00:02:00.79]Keep going.
[00:02:03.42]They won’t clap for your healing.
[00:02:05.53]You clap for yourself.
[00:02:07.95]They won’t understand your NOs.
[00:02:10.54]Say them anyway.
[00:02:13.40]They won’t get your quiet seasons.
[00:02:16.41]Protect them anyway.
[00:02:19.42]So, if they don’t understand your healing, it’s okay.
[00:02:25.20]Let them not understand.
[00:02:27.69]You’re not here to be understood.
[00:02:29.67]You’re here to be free.
[00:02:33.12]Keep healing.
[00:02:36.08]Even if you have to do it alone.
[00:02:41.28]They’re mad, because they can’t use the old you anymore.
[00:02:47.87]And that’s okay.