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Hey, this is Rooted&Real and this is Lynda. How are you guys?

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So, today's truth is going to sting just a little.

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And here it is: Not everyone will understand your healing.

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You see, healing makes people uncomfortable.

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When you start setting boundaries, some people will call you selfish.

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And when you start choosing peace, some people will call you distant.

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When you stop explaining yourself, some people will call you cold.

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And they're not mad at the new you.

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They're mad because they can't use the old you anymore.

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No, you don't need their permission.

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Your healing will confuse people who benefited from your brokenness.

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And that's okay.

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You don't need a crowd to validate your growth.

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Some relationships only worked when you were hurting.

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But when you heal, the relationship ends.

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Not because you changed wrong, but because you changed, period.

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Stop shrinking to make them comfortable.

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Stop explaining yourself to people who committed themselves to misunderstanding you.

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Keep going.

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They won't clap for your healing.

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You clap for yourself.

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They won't understand your NOs.

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Say them anyway.

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They won't get your quiet seasons.

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Protect them anyway.

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So, if they don't understand your healing, it's okay.

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Let them not understand.

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You're not here to be understood.

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You're here to be free.

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Keep healing.

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Even if you have to do it alone.

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They're mad, because they can't use the old you anymore.

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And that's okay.