Betrayal Part 3

[00:00:17.49]Hi, people.
[00:00:20.37]This is number three on ‘Betrayals’.
[00:00:25.01]I’m actually having a really good time
with this because, see, I’ve been there.
[00:00:30.25]Again, this is Lynda from Rooted&Real.
[00:00:33.17]Today, we’re going to deal with what?
[00:00:37.53]‘You Can Forgive and Still Walk Away’.
[00:00:41.81]I hope this one frees you a little.
[00:00:45.37]You don’t have to stay
to be the bigger person, okay?
[00:00:49.41]You can forgive them and still walk away.
[00:00:54.73]You know, we
think forgiveness means reconciliation.
[00:00:59.21]That we forgive them, we
have to let them back in.
[00:01:02.21]We have to act like nothing happened.
[00:01:04.41]We have to keep the door open.
[00:01:06.97]No, that’s not forgiveness.
[00:01:10.29]That is, unaskiza (are you
listening to me), self-abandonment.
[00:01:14.65]I normally shrub (mispronounce)
when I say that thing.
[00:01:19.73]That’s self-abandonment, okay?
[00:01:22.37]The truth is forgiveness is for you.
[00:01:28.05]It’s putting down the anger
so it doesn’t poison you.
[00:01:31.57]It’s saying, “What you did won’t leave
rent-free in my head anymore.”
[00:01:36.25]Walking away is for you too.
[00:01:39.81]It’s saying, “I will not let you do it
again.” It’s choosing peace over access,
[00:01:46.45]choosing safety over history.
[00:01:49.37]You can release them in your heart
and release them from your life.
[00:01:54.41]Both are acts of love.
[00:01:57.41]Love for yourself.
[00:02:00.21]So my dear, stop waiting
for the apology to heal.
[00:02:05.49]Stop waiting for them
to earn their way back.
[00:02:08.69]Forgive to be free.
[00:02:11.65]Walk away to stay free.
[00:02:15.97]So here it is.
[00:02:17.57]To anyone who’s been betrayed,
forgiveness and distance can coexist.
[00:02:24.81]Heal your heart, sweetheart.
[00:02:27.37]Guard your peace.
[00:02:31.61]And keep walking.