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Hi, people.

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This is number three on 'Betrayals'.

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I'm actually having a really good time
with this because, see, I've been there.

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Again, this is Lynda from Rooted&Real.

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Today, we're going to deal with what?

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'You Can Forgive and Still Walk Away'.

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I hope this one frees you a little.

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You don't have to stay
to be the bigger person, okay?

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You can forgive them and still walk away.

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You know, we
think forgiveness means reconciliation.

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That we forgive them, we
have to let them back in.

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We have to act like nothing happened.

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We have to keep the door open.

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No, that's not forgiveness.

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That is, unaskiza (are you
listening to me), self-abandonment.

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I normally shrub (mispronounce)
when I say that thing.

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That's self-abandonment, okay?

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The truth is forgiveness is for you.

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It's putting down the anger
so it doesn't poison you.

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It's saying, "What you did won't leave
rent-free in my head anymore."

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Walking away is for you too.

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It's saying, "I will not let you do it
again." It's choosing peace over access,

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choosing safety over history.

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You can release them in your heart
and release them from your life.

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Both are acts of love.

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Love for yourself.

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So my dear, stop waiting
for the apology to heal.

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Stop waiting for them
to earn their way back.

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Forgive to be free.

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Walk away to stay free.

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So here it is.

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To anyone who's been betrayed,
forgiveness and distance can coexist.

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Heal your heart, sweetheart.

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Guard your peace.

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And keep walking.