To My Younger Self Part 4

[00:00:17.69]Hey, hey.
Welcome back to Rooted&Real.
[00:00:21.29]This is Lynda, your pal.
[00:00:24.41]We’ve been doing notes
to our younger self.
[00:00:28.53]Today’s note ‘To My Younger Self’ is,
[00:00:33.09]‘You Are Not Responsible For Everyone’.
[00:00:38.05]So my younger self,
listen to me very carefully.
[00:00:43.81]You are not responsible for everyone.
[00:00:48.77]The weight you carried it those days, I see you,
fixing everybody’s problems,
[00:00:55.73]smoothing things over,
being the therapist, the peacemaker,
[00:01:01.57]and the strong one.
You know, you thought if you just loved
[00:01:06.77]a little harder, or tried a little harder,
[00:01:13.13]or explained a little better
[00:01:16.85]that they’d be okay.
[00:01:18.89]So what did you do?
[00:01:21.13]You carried their moods,
you carried their pain, you carried
[00:01:26.01]their choices, and it broke you.
[00:01:30.45]So, my younger soft dear,
You can put that down now.
[00:01:36.25]You’re not in charge
of how other people feel.
[00:01:39.89]You’re not responsible for their healing,
and you’re not the reason they’re upset.
[00:01:46.81]You get to have needs too, okay?
[00:01:48.97]You get to say,
“I can’t carry this for you.”
[00:01:52.61]You get to choose yourself without guilt.
[00:01:57.05]Let them have their feelings.
[00:01:58.69]Let them learn their lessons.
[00:02:01.05]Your job is to take care of you.
[00:02:04.81]The right people won’t ask you
to shrink to keep them comfortable.
[00:02:09.69]So imagine how light you’ll feel
when you stop trying to save everybody.
[00:02:15.89]That energy, that energy is yours again.
[00:02:20.33]Use it to build your life,
use it to build your joy,
[00:02:24.89]and use it for your peace.
[00:02:29.73]So to my younger self,
you’re not their parent,
[00:02:34.69]you’re not their saviour.
[00:02:37.49]You are you.
[00:02:39.29]And that, that is enough.
[00:02:42.13]So put it down.
[00:02:45.81]Thank you.