Hey, hey. Welcome back to Rooted&Real.
This is Lynda, your pal.
We've been doing notes to our younger self.
Today's note 'To My Younger Self' is,
'You Are Not Responsible For Everyone'.
So my younger self, listen to me very carefully.
You are not responsible for everyone.
The weight you carried it those days, I see you, fixing everybody's problems,
smoothing things over, being the therapist, the peacemaker,
and the strong one. You know, you thought if you just loved
a little harder, or tried a little harder,
or explained a little better
that they'd be okay.
So what did you do?
You carried their moods, you carried their pain, you carried
their choices, and it broke you.
So, my younger soft dear, You can put that down now.
You're not in charge of how other people feel.
You're not responsible for their healing, and you're not the reason they're upset.
You get to have needs too, okay?
You get to say, "I can't carry this for you."
You get to choose yourself without guilt.
Let them have their feelings.
Let them learn their lessons.
Your job is to take care of you.
The right people won't ask you to shrink to keep them comfortable.
So imagine how light you'll feel when you stop trying to save everybody.
That energy, that energy is yours again.
Use it to build your life, use it to build your joy,
and use it for your peace.
So to my younger self, you're not their parent,
you're not their saviour.
You are you.
And that, that is enough.
So put it down.
Thank you.