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Hey, hey.
Welcome back to Rooted&Real.

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This is Lynda, your pal.

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We've been doing notes
to our younger self.

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Today's note 'To My Younger Self' is,

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'You Are Not Responsible For Everyone'.

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So my younger self,
listen to me very carefully.

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You are not responsible for everyone.

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The weight you carried it those days, I see you,
fixing everybody's problems,

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smoothing things over,
being the therapist, the peacemaker,

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and the strong one.
You know, you thought if you just loved

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a little harder, or tried a little harder,

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or explained a little better

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that they'd  be okay.

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So what did you do?

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You carried their moods,
you carried their pain, you carried

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their choices, and it broke you.

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So, my younger soft dear,
You can put that down now.

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You're not in charge
of how other people feel.

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You're not responsible for their healing,
and you're not the reason they're upset.

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You get to have needs too, okay?

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You get to say,
"I can't carry this for you."

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You get to choose yourself without guilt.

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Let them have their feelings.

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Let them learn their lessons.

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Your job is to take care of you.

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The right people won't ask you
to shrink to keep them comfortable.

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So imagine how light you'll feel
when you stop trying to save everybody.

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That energy, that energy is yours again.

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Use it to build your life,
use it to build your joy,

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and use it for your peace.

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So to my younger self,
you're not their parent,

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you're not their saviour.

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You are you.

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And that, that is enough.

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So put it down.

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Thank you.