“Letting Go: Part 4…” Control!
This is the fourth episode of the miniseries, “Letting Go: Hold On to Memories, Let Go of Pain” in the Lynda: Rooted&Real podcast.
Lynda confronts her feelings of regret—embracing the good, the bad, and the ugly—in ‘Letting Go’ Part 4. While the past cannot be changed, she discovers the power of self-forgiveness.
Lynda addresses the theme of control—an anxiety cloaked in formality—in ‘Letting Go’ Part 4. The pursuit of peace cannot be achieved through clinging tightly. Instead, it invites us to breathe deeply, trust the process, and let go.
Even amidst uncertainty, you are safe. Embracing the unknown can be daunting, but it also opens the door to new possibilities and growth. Allow yourself to release the need for control and find solace in the present moment.
Letting Go Part 4
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A text version of the podcast episode with timestamps.
[00:00:16.47]Welcome back to Rooted&Real and this is your pal, Lynda. We’ve been dealing with letting go.
[00:00:25.29]The first one was letting go of grief. The second one, broken relationships. You’ve got to let go.
[00:00:35.09]The third was dead projects. Let go, ‘bwana’. Now today we’re dealing with the fourth one,
[00:00:44.47]Letting Go of CONTROL. This is the hardest one normally. You know, we think if we plan harder,
[00:00:52.89]worry longer, fix more, we’ll be safe. But control is just fear wearing a suit.
[00:01:02.100]You can’t control people. You can’t control timing. You can’t control outcomes. And pretending you can
[00:01:12.09]is exhausting. The tighter you grip, the more your hands hurt. ‘Unajua ile kukunja mkono?’ Like a fist? Yeah? Anxiety,
[00:01:23.60]sleepless nights, snapping at people. That’s not strength. That’s fear holding the steering wheel.
[00:01:33.40]Surrender isn’t weakness. Surrender is saying, “I trust something bigger than my plan.”
[00:01:42.54]Okay, so how do you loosen your grip? Name what is not yours. It’s their choices.
[00:01:54.47]It’s their timeline. The what ifs, those are not yours to carry, okay? Breathe and release.
[00:02:10.52]Literally, by the way. Inhale for four and then exhale for six. Your body can’t panic.
[00:02:24.46]And then breathe slow at the same time. Do the right thing. That’s the last one. You don’t need
[00:02:34.09]the whole map. You just need the next step. Remember Rome was not built in a day. Control
[00:02:40.99]runs the whole plan. But faith asks for one step. Letting go of control doesn’t mean you stop
[00:02:51.35]caring. It means you stop trying to be God. If your shoulders are up by your ears right now,
[00:03:01.81]‘hebu’ drop them. You don’t have to figure it all out today. BREATHE. TRUST. RELEASE.
[00:03:17.29]You’re safe even when nothing is certain. Let go and let God.
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Thu, 11 Jun, 2026
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