Betrayal Part 1

[00:00:18.17]Hi there.
[00:00:19.85]This is Lynda again from Rooted&Real.
[00:00:26.13]Today, we’re going to start
a new episode of ‘Betrayals’.
[00:00:29.93]I know we’ve all been there.
[00:00:32.13]The first one that I’m going to deal
with is, ‘It Was Never About You’.
[00:00:40.05]Look, if someone betrayed you,
[00:00:45.29]I need you to hear this first.
[00:00:51.09]Honestly, it was never about you.
[00:00:53.57]When they lied, when they cheated,
when they talked behind your back,
[00:01:00.25]or when they left,
your brain instantly went to,
[00:01:05.49]Oh, “What did I do wrong?”
[00:01:06.85]“Was I not enough?”
[00:01:08.49]“Was I too much?”
[00:01:12.05]Stop!
[00:01:13.97]Stop right there.
[00:01:16.01]Their choice to betray you was about them,
their lack of integrity,
[00:01:22.49]their inability to be honest, their own
wounds they didn’t want to deal with.
[00:01:29.61]You could have been perfect,
and it’s still would have happened.
[00:01:34.45]Because people who betray, betray, period.
[00:01:39.53]It’s who they are,
even when no one’s watching.
[00:01:43.77]It’s not a reflection of your worth, okay?
[00:01:47.49]It’s not a reflection of your lovability.
[00:01:51.57]It’s a reflection of their character.
[00:01:55.53]You didn’t cause it,
and you couldn’t have prevented it.
[00:02:01.13]You definitely can’t fix
it by blaming yourself.
[00:02:06.17]So put that weight down.
[00:02:08.25]Stop carrying that shame that isn’t yours.
[00:02:11.77]The only thing you did was trust.
[00:02:15.29]And trusting is not a weakness.
[00:02:20.45]It’s brave!
[00:02:23.65]So to anyone who’s been betrayed,
it was never about you.
[00:02:30.01]You’re still good, you are still worthy,
and the right people
[00:02:36.57]will prove that to you.