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Hi there.

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This is Lynda again from Rooted&Real.

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Today, we're going to start
a new episode of 'Betrayals'.

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I know we've all been there.

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The first one that I'm going to deal
with is, 'It Was Never About You'.

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Look, if someone betrayed you,

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I need you to hear this first.

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Honestly, it was never about you.

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When they lied, when they cheated,
when they talked behind your back,

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or when they left,
your brain instantly went to,

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Oh, "What did I do wrong?"

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"Was I not enough?"

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"Was I too much?"

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Stop!

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Stop right there.

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Their choice to betray you was about them,
their lack of integrity,

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their inability to be honest, their own
wounds they didn't want to deal with.

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You could have been perfect,
and it's still would have happened.

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Because people who betray, betray, period.

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It's who they are,
even when no one's watching.

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It's not a reflection of your worth, okay?

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It's not a reflection of your lovability.

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It's a reflection of their character.

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You didn't cause it,
and you couldn't have prevented it.

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You definitely can't fix
it by blaming yourself.

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So put that weight down.

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Stop carrying that shame that isn't yours.

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The only thing you did was trust.

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And trusting is not a weakness.

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It's brave!

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So to anyone who's been betrayed,
it was never about you.

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You're still good, you are still worthy,
and the right people

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will prove that to you.