WEBVTT 1 00:00:17.928 --> 00:00:21.848 Hi, this is Rooted&Real, and this is Lynda, 2 00:00:23.128 --> 00:00:25.448 your personal person speaking. 3 00:00:27.128 --> 00:00:33.728 Today, I'm going to talk about something that is very close to my heart. 4 00:00:35.848 --> 00:00:41.648 The series is 'When You Feel Overwhelmed'. 5 00:00:43.208 --> 00:00:45.328 So today, I'm going to start with the first one. 6 00:00:45.568 --> 00:00:47.248 'You're not lazy. 7 00:00:48.008 --> 00:00:49.688 You're just overwhelmed'. 8 00:00:51.728 --> 00:00:56.288 So, for you who woke up today and you're feeling tired, 9 00:00:57.488 --> 00:01:02.688 you look at your to-do list and you just froze: dishes, 10 00:01:04.568 --> 00:01:10.648 messages you haven't replied to, work that you need to catch up on, 11 00:01:12.328 --> 00:01:15.368 but you're just there, you can't do anything. 12 00:01:16.688 --> 00:01:19.848 So you start asking yourself, "I'm so lazy. 13 00:01:19.968 --> 00:01:26.688 What's wrong with me?" I need to say this. 14 00:01:26.808 --> 00:01:28.008 You're not lazy. 15 00:01:29.088 --> 00:01:30.408 You're just overwhelmed. 16 00:01:31.128 --> 00:01:33.368 There's a totally big difference. 17 00:01:34.008 --> 00:01:37.368 You see, a lazy person doesn't feel guilty about resting. 18 00:01:38.048 --> 00:01:41.823 And a lazy person doesn't want to do these things. 19 00:01:41.848 --> 00:01:42.608 They don't care. 20 00:01:43.728 --> 00:01:48.288 But you, you care so much about it it hurts. 21 00:01:48.808 --> 00:01:50.568 You want to do it all. 22 00:01:52.688 --> 00:01:58.463 But you just don't have the energy because your brain is not just 23 00:01:58.488 --> 00:01:59.768 thinking about those dishes. 24 00:02:00.848 --> 00:02:05.088 Your brain is like carrying 50 tabs open, all of them at once. 25 00:02:05.768 --> 00:02:08.128 "One, how will I pay that bill? 26 00:02:08.568 --> 00:02:12.168 Two, why was I blue-ticked?" 27 00:02:12.688 --> 00:02:14.248 'Ghai' (God), that one is depressing. 28 00:02:15.568 --> 00:02:18.128 "Three, am I a bad parent? 29 00:02:19.168 --> 00:02:20.488 Am I a bad sibling? 30 00:02:21.928 --> 00:02:23.168 Am I a bad friend? 31 00:02:25.688 --> 00:02:31.943 Am I a bad wife?" Four, you think about that embarrassing 32 00:02:31.968 --> 00:02:33.928 thing that happened even 3 years ago. 33 00:02:35.248 --> 00:02:41.608 Five, you ask yourself, "What if my future never works out?" 34 00:02:43.808 --> 00:02:45.928 You're exhausted. Anyone would be. 35 00:02:46.848 --> 00:02:49.488 And You don't have a discipline problem. 36 00:02:50.528 --> 00:02:53.088 You have an overload problem. 37 00:02:54.248 --> 00:02:59.008 And you will not heal by shouting at yourself to do just one more. 38 00:03:00.608 --> 00:03:04.088 But you will heal by closing one tab at a time. 39 00:03:04.848 --> 00:03:06.903 So today, we're not doing everything. 40 00:03:06.928 --> 00:03:09.288 We're doing one small, brief thing. 41 00:03:09.568 --> 00:03:12.048 Not clean the whole house, just one plate. 42 00:03:14.168 --> 00:03:15.648 Not fix your whole life. 43 00:03:16.208 --> 00:03:18.008 Just drink one glass of water. 44 00:03:18.688 --> 00:03:21.448 Step outside for like 5 minutes. Feel the sun. 45 00:03:22.728 --> 00:03:27.168 Take one deep breath that goes all the way to your stomach. 46 00:03:28.408 --> 00:03:29.528 That is not small. 47 00:03:31.328 --> 00:03:34.728 When you're overwhelmed, that is everything. 48 00:03:36.168 --> 00:03:44.368 So if all you did today was breathe and survive, I am totally proud of you. 49 00:03:45.488 --> 00:03:48.408 You're not behind, you're not lazy. 50 00:03:49.968 --> 00:03:52.408 You're a human being carrying a lot. 51 00:03:54.128 --> 00:03:55.903 But guess what? 52 00:03:55.928 --> 00:03:57.048 You're still there. 53 00:03:58.488 --> 00:04:04.768 So tomorrow, let's talk about how this heavy feeling is not your forever. 54 00:04:05.648 --> 00:04:09.328 But for today, just one small thing, okay? 55 00:04:11.488 --> 00:04:15.848 You got this, and I, I got you.