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Rooted&Real here, and this is Lynda.

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Our fourth episode of The Woman Who Was
Forgotten (To The Woman Who Forgot

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Herself) is, 'You Are Allowed to Rest'.

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So, am I here?

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Anyway, to the woman who feels guilty
when she's resting or when she rests.

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If you only rest when you've earned it,
'ati' (like) when you have finished

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everything, 'ati' (like) when
everyone is okay, You'll never rest.

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You will wear exhaustion
like a badge of honour.

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'Unajua kama zile za scouts' (You
know, like the ones for the scouts)?

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"I'm so busy." - "I'm so tired."
- "I did so much today."

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Because if you're not busy, you feel lazy.

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If you're not tired, you feel
like you're not doing enough.

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You were taught that your
worth is in how much you do.

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So you keep going, even when
your body is begging you to stop.

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Headaches, back pain, snapping at
everyone, crying in the bathroom.

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That's not just stress, love.

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That's your body screaming for rest.

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Then when you finally sit down, your brain
says, "You should be doing laundry." -

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"You should be answering that message.

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Get up." 'Hapana' (No)!

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You are allowed to rest, not because
you earned it, but because you're human.

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Rest is not a reward for productivity.

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Rest is productivity itself.

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It is how you heal, how you reset,
how you come back softer.

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You don't have to earn rest by being
exhausted first, 'hapana' (no).

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You don't have to justify
why you need a break.

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You don't have to make it look useful.

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Like I'm resting so I can
be more productive later.

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No, no, no.

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You can rest just because you're
tired, and that is enough.

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So today, darling, rest without guilt.
Close the door.

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Say no.
Take the nap, leave the dishes.

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Let the world keep spinning without you.

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Even for an hour, the house will survive.

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The work will wait.

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But you, you need this.

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You are allowed to rest, and
you don't have to explain why.

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'Sawa' (Okay)?