Hi, pretty woman.
This is Lynda again on Rooted&Real.
Today our episode is on you, woman.
You, who is forgotten.
Here it is: 'It’s Not Selfish to Want More'.
So to that woman who feels guilty for wanting more, you love your life, but
sometimes you lie awake thinking, "Is this it?" And then you even
feel guilty for thinking about that.
So there's this thing that says, You know, you have so much to be grateful for.
A family, a roof, people who love you.
When that little voice whispers, "I want more." You shush it, 'unainyamazisha' (you
silence it) that you tell yourself, "Who am I to complain?
Other women have it worse." So you silence your ambition.
You shrink your desire.
You tell yourself, "You should be content." But here it is.
Wanting more doesn't mean you are ungrateful.
It means you are alive.
You are allowed to love your children and miss your freedom.
You are allowed to love your partner and want your own purpose.
You are allowed to be grateful for this life and still dream of
another version of it.
Two things can be true at the same time. Okay?
So It's not selfish to want more.
More peace, more joy, more money that you made, more space to be you,
more conversations that don't revolve around kids or bills, more purpose
outside of taking care of everybody else.
For years, you are told to be selfless, to be humble, to not want too much.
But sweetheart, your desires are not dangerous.
They are directions.
That business idea, that course you saved, that trip you
want to take alone, that's not selfish.
That's your soul knocking, telling you, "I'm still here.
Don't forget me." You don't have to blow up your life to honour your wants.
You just have to stop apologising for them.
Write it down, say it out loud.
Let yourself want it.
Because a woman who allows herself to want more teaches her daughters
that they can, too.
It's not selfish.
It's sacred.