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Hi, pretty woman.

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This is Lynda again on Rooted&Real.

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Today our episode is on you, woman.

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You, who is forgotten.

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Here it is: 'It’s Not
Selfish to Want More'.

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So to that woman who feels guilty for
wanting more, you love your life, but

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sometimes you lie awake thinking,
"Is this it?" And then you even

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feel guilty for thinking about that.

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So there's this thing that says, You
know, you have so much to be grateful for.

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A family, a roof, people who love you.

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When that little voice whispers, "I want
more." You shush it, 'unainyamazisha' (you

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silence it) that
you tell yourself, "Who am I to complain?

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Other women have it worse."
So you silence your ambition.

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You shrink your desire.

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You tell yourself, "You should
be content." But here it is.

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Wanting more doesn't
mean you are ungrateful.

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It means you are alive.

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You are allowed to love your
children and miss your freedom.

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You are allowed to love your partner
and want your own purpose.

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You are allowed to be grateful for this
life and still dream of

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another version of it.

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Two things can be true at the same time.
Okay?

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So It's not selfish to want more.

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More peace, more joy, more money
that you made, more space to be you,

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more conversations that don't revolve
around kids or bills, more purpose

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outside of taking care of everybody else.

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For years, you are told to be selfless,
to be humble, to not want too much.

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But sweetheart, your
desires are not dangerous.

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They are directions.

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That business idea,
that course you saved, that trip you

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want to take alone, that's not selfish.

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That's your soul knocking,
telling you, "I'm still here.

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Don't forget me." You don't have to
blow up your life to honour your wants.

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You just have to stop
apologising for them.

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Write it down, say it out loud.

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Let yourself want it.

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Because a woman who allows herself to want
more teaches her daughters

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that they can, too.

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It's not selfish.

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It's sacred.