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Hey, this is your personal person,
Lynda, on Rooted&Real.

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We've been talking about 'Parenting'.

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There's no manual,
but there's something called...

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Is it advice?

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Okay.
Now, this is the last one.

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It's 'You're Breaking Cycles'.

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Now, to the parent healing while raising kids.

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Maybe you had a rough childhood, maybe.

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It wasn't all that.

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But I see you.

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You are breaking cycles.

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Maybe you grew up with yelling,
or worse, silence,

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with children should not be seen and not
be heard, with love that had conditions.

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And you swore, "I won't do that to my kids."

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But guess what?

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Now you're doing it
while triggering your own inner child,

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while unlearning 30 years of stuff.

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While still exhausted.

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You know, that's the hardest
parenting there is.

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The fact that you're trying differently
already means you're doing it.

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The fact that you pause before you react,
that's breaking a cycle.

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The fact that you say, "I'm sorry",
that is breaking a cycle.

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The fact that you let them cry
and don't shame them for it,

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that is breaking a cycle.

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And the fact that you hug them
and tell them they're enough,

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that's also breaking a cycle.

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So you're not just raising kids.

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You're healing generations behind you,
and you're protecting

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generations ahead of you.

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It's not perfect.

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You'll still mess up, But you know what?

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You'll repair, and that's the difference.

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So give yourself credit.

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Therapy also counts.

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Books, relevant books, count.

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Choosing gentleness over how
it was done those days counts.

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You're doing sacred works.

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Even on the days,
it feels like you're failing.

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These are God's gifts to us.

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So to every cycle breaker,
the chain stops with you.

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And because of you,
it starts different with them.

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And that's legacy.

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So you've been there, you've walked with
me on the full five episodes of parenting.

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Please leave a note
and just comment on how it was for you.

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Thank you for walking
this journey with me.