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This is Rooted&Real, and this is Lynda.

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We've been talking about 'Parenting'.

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And today, there's something
that I learned.

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'It’s Okay to Apologise to Your Kids'.

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Okay, parent, you messed up today.

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You yelled, you snapped, you shut down.

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But guess what?

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That's okay.

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Because it's also okay
to apologise to your kids.

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You know, sometimes I think
apologising makes us weak.

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Like if we say, "I was wrong",
our kids won't respect us.

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So we pretend it didn't happen.

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Buy them something instead.

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We act like that perfect
parent who never slips.

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But you know what?

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That's teaching them that mistakes are
shameful and that repair

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isn't part of love.

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Now, apologising to your kids
doesn't make you less of a parent.

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It makes you more human.

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Something like, "I
yelled, and that wasn't fair.

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I'm sorry." You see, that sentence
teaches them accountability.

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It teaches them that people we love
can hurt us and then make it right.

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So you're not apologising
for having boundaries.

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You are apologising
for how you handled it.

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Big difference.

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Again, I repeat,
your kids don't need a perfect parent.

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They need a parent who shows them
what it looks like to own your stuff.

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Keep it simple, though.

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No excuses.

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"I'm sorry I spoke to you like that.

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I was frustrated, but that was
my job to handle, not yours.

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And I love you." Then hug them.

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Then move on.

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You're modelling the exact skill
you want them to have someday.

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So here it is.

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To every parent
who's feeling guilty, listen here.

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Repair is stronger than perfection.

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Say the sorry.

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And then watch how this
heals for both of you.