This is Rooted&Real, and this is Lynda.
We've been talking about 'Parenting'.
And today, there's something that I learned.
'It’s Okay to Apologise to Your Kids'.
Okay, parent, you messed up today.
You yelled, you snapped, you shut down.
But guess what?
That's okay.
Because it's also okay to apologise to your kids.
You know, sometimes I think apologising makes us weak.
Like if we say, "I was wrong", our kids won't respect us.
So we pretend it didn't happen.
Buy them something instead.
We act like that perfect parent who never slips.
But you know what?
That's teaching them that mistakes are shameful and that repair
isn't part of love.
Now, apologising to your kids doesn't make you less of a parent.
It makes you more human.
Something like, "I yelled, and that wasn't fair.
I'm sorry." You see, that sentence teaches them accountability.
It teaches them that people we love can hurt us and then make it right.
So you're not apologising for having boundaries.
You are apologising for how you handled it.
Big difference.
Again, I repeat, your kids don't need a perfect parent.
They need a parent who shows them what it looks like to own your stuff.
Keep it simple, though.
No excuses.
"I'm sorry I spoke to you like that.
I was frustrated, but that was my job to handle, not yours.
And I love you." Then hug them.
Then move on.
You're modelling the exact skill you want them to have someday.
So here it is.
To every parent who's feeling guilty, listen here.
Repair is stronger than perfection.
Say the sorry.
And then watch how this heals for both of you.