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Rooted&Real here, again.

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So let's pick this up.

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This is another note on 'Parenting'.

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So to every tired parent, listen here.

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Those kids, they don't
need a perfect parent.

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They just need a present one.

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I hope you heard me.

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Your kids don't need a perfect parent.

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They just need a present one.

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('Be a Present Parent, Not a
Perfect One.') So we are here.

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We're seeing homemade lunches, perfect
bedrooms, five languages by age four.

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And we think, "I'm failing."

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So we chase perfection.

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The clean house, those lovely snacks.

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The 'no-screen-time, 'no-sugar,
'no-mistakes' childhood.

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But what we're chasing is perfect.

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But there's no perfection because
we're missing those actual moments.

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The kids won't remember
if the house was clean.

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They'll remember if you looked up
from your phone when they talked.

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They won't remember the
perfect birthday party.

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They'll remember you dancing
in the kitchen with them.

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Listen, 10 distracted minutes don't count.

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But 2 minutes of eye contact,
2 minutes of laughing, 2 minutes

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of really listening, that does.
It does count.

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So put down your phone.

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Five minutes only.

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Get on that floor.

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Say, "Tell me about your day,"
and actually wait for the answer.

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Let the laundry wait.

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Let the dishes wait.

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You know what?

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The mess will still be there,
but this version of your kid won't.

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So to every parent carrying guilt,
you don't have to be perfect.

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You just have to be here.

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And guess what?

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You already are.