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Hello.
Again, Lynda here on Rooted&Real.

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This is the last one on some truths,
just some, about marriage.

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So staying is a daily choice.

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We think marriage is one big choice,
I do at the altar, and then you're done.

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No.

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Marriage is choosing each other each
and every single morning after that.

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But don't get me wrong,
I do is not past tense.

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It is present tense, I do.

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So, "I do today.

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I still do even when you snore.

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I still do even when we fought last
night." So love is not a

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feeling that just stays.

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Love is a decision you
have to keep renewing.

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Every day you decide,
"Will I speak with respect today?

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Will I keep my phone down and listen?

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Will I protect this house from outsiders?

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Will I be faithful,
even in the smallest things?" The couples

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who make it don't have less temptation.

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Don't have less fights.

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They just have more commitment.

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They understand vows are not a prison.

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Vows are a promise that says,
"I won't walk away when it

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gets too hard to love you."

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"I'll find a new way to love you."
So if your marriage is struggling,

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don't ask, "Do I still feel in
love?" That feeling will come and go.

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Ask, "Am I still choosing
this person today?

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Am I doing the small things that show I
choose them?" Because in the end,

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great marriages are not
built on great wedding days.

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They're built on 10,000 small mornings
where two people quietly said,

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"I still do." And that is a wrap.