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Hey, again, Lynda here on Rooted&Real.

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So today's fourth episode is
The Boring Days are the marriage.

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So you thought marriage
would be honeymoon every day.

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What movie were you watching?

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Movies lied.

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For real.

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And this is me, and you
can comment and just argue.

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Real marriage is 80% boring,
but that's where love actually lives.

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Love is not in the proposal.

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It's in who takes out the trash when it's
raining,

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who stays with you when you have flu,
who listens to the same

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story for the 10th time.

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It's Tuesday night.

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No makeup, dishes are in the sink,
'mtoto analia' (the baby is crying) and

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you still choose kindness.

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Everyone can love you
on holiday in Mombasa.

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But can they love you on a
boring broke-tired Tuesday?

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That's the question.

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The problem is we get bored and
we think we've lost the spark.

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No, we didn't lose the spark.

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We just entered the real marriage.

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Spark is expensive to keep every day.

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Peace is better.

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So stop chasing excitement.

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Start cherishing consistency.

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The small things that you think
are small are the big things.

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The good morning text,
the plate of food covered for you.

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That, "Have you eaten?"

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That is love language,
especially in African homes.

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So do not wait for the anniversaries to
feel married.

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Feel married in the small,
boring, wholly every day.

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This is me, man.

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Tomorrow, we're doing the final one,
which is staying is a daily choice.

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See you then.