Welcome back to Rooted&Real, this is your buddy, Lynda and I'm just glad I'm with you.
Today... Well, we've been talking about If You Knew Then what you know now. Would you have made things different? Would you have made things better?
And we're still on that, but today we're going to hit on losing a loved one.
We've all lost loved ones, parents, siblings, maybe friends, close friends, maybe guardians, mentors, you know, even offspring, the fruit of your womb.
And it's really sad, but after the burials and the whatnots, you start looking back and you're like, you know, what should I have said more?
Should I have stayed with them more? Should I have made things better?
Did that person misunderstand me when they said A, B, C, D? Because, you know, if you could revisit the times when that person was here, would you take back the words which hurt or sometimes led to tears?
Because you know what, my dear, death is such a finality because once that person is gone, once they're dead, they're dead. And those words that you wanted to say have been left unsaid. And that is the truth.
I lost my mom in 2014, and I wish I spent more time with her. I honestly, that's my, I wish I spent more time with her. And there's one thing that I'd love to say, because we have people around us that we love and who love us back.
Make it better for them. Say sorry when you should. Visit them when they need somebody to lean on. And if you feel those miscommunications or misunderstandings somewhere, clear it up. Because that is how life is.
There's a poem that I'm going to read to you. It says, I have memories of us I often replay. But they're also memories I wish would fade away. I'm sorry if my tone was harsh or if my words would sting. I'm sorry there were times my mood would color everything.
If I could change mistakes I made, I'm telling you I would. And I'm sorry if you ever got misunderstood. I'm thankful, though, for the love we shared. And I thank God above even though we were apart.
So that is it. If you knew then what you know now, would you have made things better or different? Make them better now with the loved ones that you still hold dear. Thank you.