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Welcome back to Rooted&Real, the last episode (of 'If I Knew Then' Series).

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This is Lynda, your pal.

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If I knew then what I know now,

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I would have made peace with regret sooner.

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But in all this, in all this what we've said about knowing then what you know now,

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there's the good, there's the bad, and there's THE UGLY.

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So let's start with the good.

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If you're saying that regret means you cared, it means you've grown.

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If you feel regret, it's because you're not the same person who made that choice anymore.

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And that's good news, isn't it?

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It means you're learning, you're healing, and you're becoming.

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When you replay the 'what ifs' at 3 a.m., that is when the bad gets in.

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The bad is when regret becomes your home.

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When you say, "What if I said sorry sooner?"

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"What if I didn't waste those years?"

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"What if I chose different?"

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You know, I lived there for a while.

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And believe me, regret makes a terrible roommate.

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It steals your sleep and convinces you the past can be rewritten.

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Well, here is news...

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It can't!

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And now we get to the ugly.

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Now, the ugly truth is you can't undo it.

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You can't un-say the words.

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You can't un-spend that money.

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And you can't un-miss that moment.

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And I'm telling you, I hated that part.

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I actually wanted a time machine.

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But the ugly also sets you free.

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Because once you accept you can't change it,

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you can choose what to do today.

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What to do now.

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What to do this minute.

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So, if I knew then, what I know now,

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I'd tell myself this.

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Apologize where you can.

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Make it right where you can.

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Then, forgive yourself for the rest.

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Regret taught me, but

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it doesn't get to define me.

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And it doesn't get to define you, either.

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THANK YOU so much for walking through all 10 episodes with me on Rooted&Real.

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If 'MY THEN' helped 'YOUR NOW',

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then it was definitely worth it.

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Thank you for listening.

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Until next season,

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be gentle with yourself.

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You are still becoming.

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Love you...