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Hey, this is Rooted&Real, and this is Lynda for you.

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Today, we're going to talk about Grief. And there's only one thing I can tell you.

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From experience, Grief Has No Deadline.

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There's that lie that it should have an expiry date. No, no, no, it shouldn't.

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Their timeline, meaning those others, their timeline is not yours.

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"Oh, it's been months, aren't you over it yet?" -  "Oh, you need to move on."

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"Oh, be strong for everyone else." Nope, grief does not work on their calendar.

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You don't get to set an alarm for three months and then be healed.

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Some days you'll be fine, but some days even a song will break you.

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And both are very normal.

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So, healing doesn't mean you stop missing them, no.

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It just means the pain stops being the only thing you feel.

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You don't get over their loss, but you learn to carry it.

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You learn to laugh again, even with tears still in your eyes.

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You learn that loving them and missing them can actually live in the same space.

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So, cry if you need to cry. Talk about them if you want to talk about them.

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Don't rush your healing to make other people comfortable.

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No, God isn't timing you. He's sitting right there with you in it.

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If you're still grieving, no, you're not behind. And no, you're not broken. You're human.

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Remember, grief has no deadline. And neither does your healing. Breathe.

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Breathe.

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One day at a time. And that's enough...