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Hi, people.

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Lynda again, on Rooted&Real.

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We're doing a topic on how to disappear
and come back stronger.

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This second episode is going to be about
heal in private,

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basically 'Healing in Private'.

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Everyone wants to show how they're
healing, posting quotes, crying on live,

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telling everyone who hurt them.

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But you see, the real
healing happens in private.

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And private healing is ugly.

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There's no filter, there's no audience.
It's just you.

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And the mirror asking,
"How did I end up here?"

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You have to see it with what happened
without trying to make it cute.

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You have to admit, "I was hurt,
but I also allowed some things,

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and I also ignored red flags."
Healing in private means you stop

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using your pain for attention.

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You start using it for lessons.

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No one needs your journal.

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No one needs to see you praying
'ati' (like) at 2:00 AM.

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No one needs to know you
blocked them and cried after.

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Keep it private
because the moment you heal for applause,

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you heal for the wrongest reason,
and you'll break again

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when the claps stop.

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So ask yourself today,
"What do I need to forgive myself for?

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What do I need to let go
of that I keep replaying?"

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You try and do that work
behind closed doors.

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Let people see the results later
and not the process.