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Hey, again, this is Lynda,
your personal person.

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Today, I'm still with the dads.

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And today, I want to say,
'Your Kids Don’t Need a Perfect Dad'.

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So to that dad who beat himself up today
for losing his temper,

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your kids don't need a perfect dad.

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They need a real one.

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You shouted, and then you felt guilty
the whole day, or was it the whole night?

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You were tired from work, and there were
just be being kids, noisy, needy,

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'nini' (whatever), and you snapped.

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And now you're sitting in your car or in
the bathroom, or in the kitchen, or in the

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veranda, the balcony, and you're
thinking, "I'm just like my father.

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I'm failing them."
Listen, every good dad has that moment.

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The difference between a good dad and a
bad dad, it's not that

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good dads never lose it.

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It's that good dads come back and repair.

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Perfection is not what builds your kids.

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You know what does?

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Connection.

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Go back to them, get down at their level.

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Then say, "Hey, I'm
sorry, I shouted earlier.

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I was tired and stressed,
and it's not your fault.

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You didn't deserve that.

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Will you forgive me?"
You see, it's that one sentence

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that teaches them more than
100 perfect days ever could.

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It teaches them how to take
responsibility, how to apologise,

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how to regulate emotions.

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You're not ruining them.

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You're raising them.

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And part of raising is repairing.

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So let go of perfect.

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Aim for present.

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Aim for honest.

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Aim for trying again tomorrow.

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You see, your kids already
think you're a superhero.

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You don't need to be
flawless to keep that keep.

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Just be real.