Hey, again, this is Lynda, your personal person.
Today, I'm still with the dads.
And today, I want to say, 'Your Kids Don’t Need a Perfect Dad'.
So to that dad who beat himself up today for losing his temper,
your kids don't need a perfect dad.
They need a real one.
You shouted, and then you felt guilty the whole day, or was it the whole night?
You were tired from work, and there were just be being kids, noisy, needy,
'nini' (whatever), and you snapped.
And now you're sitting in your car or in the bathroom, or in the kitchen, or in the
veranda, the balcony, and you're thinking, "I'm just like my father.
I'm failing them." Listen, every good dad has that moment.
The difference between a good dad and a bad dad, it's not that
good dads never lose it.
It's that good dads come back and repair.
Perfection is not what builds your kids.
You know what does?
Connection.
Go back to them, get down at their level.
Then say, "Hey, I'm sorry, I shouted earlier.
I was tired and stressed, and it's not your fault.
You didn't deserve that.
Will you forgive me?" You see, it's that one sentence
that teaches them more than 100 perfect days ever could.
It teaches them how to take responsibility, how to apologise,
how to regulate emotions.
You're not ruining them.
You're raising them.
And part of raising is repairing.
So let go of perfect.
Aim for present.
Aim for honest.
Aim for trying again tomorrow.
You see, your kids already think you're a superhero.
You don't need to be flawless to keep that keep.
Just be real.