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Hey, it's Lynda back on Rooted&Real,
and it's all been about mums, wives.

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Today, it's all about dads.

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Especially the 'Dads
Who Are Really Trying'.

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We're going to do five episodes on them.

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And please remember to leave a comment
if this has touched you in any way.

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So daddys out there.

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'Your Presence Matters'
more than your paycheck.

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To that dad who is trying,
who thinks he's failing because

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he can't give them everything.

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Listen to me.

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Your presence matters
more than your paycheck.

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You come home tired.

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Every day you're hustling.

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Whichever county it is, Eldoret, Nairobi,
you know, and you carry this guilt.

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"Am I doing enough?"

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"My kids deserve more."

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"My wife deserves more."

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You see,
You're actually seeing what other dads are

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providing on Instagram
or TikTok and stuff, and you

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feel small, so you work more.

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You become quieter at home
because your mind is on bills.

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But your kids,
they're not counting your money.

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They're counting the times you looked up
from your phone,

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the times you kicked the ball even for 5
minutes, the times you said,

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"I'm proud of you," and meant it.

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Your kids will not remember the exact
amount you paid for school fees.

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They will remember, though,
if you were there when they were scared.

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They will remember
if you made them feel safe.

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A present dad with little is worth much

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more than an absent dad with plenty.

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Honestly, you don't have to be
a millionaire to be a good father.

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You just have to be present.

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But that doesn't mean you
stop providing, 'hapana' (no).

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It means you stop believing
that providing is all you are.

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So tonight, today evening,
when you get home tired,

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sit on that floor, play that silly game,
listen to that long story about school.

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That's the wealth they'll never forget.

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You're doing better than you think.

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Keep showing up, Daddy.