Hey, this is Lynda again on Rooted&Real.
There's something I'm always going to be talking about, and that's
'Boundaries', because I don't think we talk enough about them.
Now, listen, "No" is not a mean word.
Saying no doesn't make you cold.
Saying no doesn't make you selfish.
It makes you honest.
Boundaries are how you protect your peace, your time, your energy.
It includes yourself, too.
You can love people that still not let them have access to all of you.
You can care very deeply and still say, "That doesn't work for me".
It's allowed.
Real love doesn't ask you to shrink or to overgive, or abandon yourself
just to keep that love. 'Hapana' (No)!
Every time you set a boundary, you're teaching people how to treat you.
And you're teaching yourself that you matter too.
And that's not distance, that's respect.
They might be confused at first, they might push back, but that's okay.
You, you, stay soft and stay clear.
A boundary without guilt is freedom.
Boundaries are love.
Love for them, love for you.
Just draw the line and mean it.
And please, please remember, NO is a complete sentence.