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Hey, this is Lynda again on Rooted&Real.

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There's something I'm always
going to be talking about, and that's

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'Boundaries', because I don't
think we talk enough about them.

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Now, listen, "No" is not a mean word.

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Saying no doesn't make you cold.

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Saying no doesn't make you selfish.

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It makes you honest.

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Boundaries are how you protect your peace,
your time, your energy.

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It includes yourself, too.

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You can love people that still not
let them have access to all of you.

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You can care very deeply and still say,
"That doesn't work for me".

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It's allowed.

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Real love doesn't ask you to shrink
or to overgive, or abandon yourself

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just to keep that love.
'Hapana' (No)!

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Every time you set a boundary,
you're teaching people how to treat you.

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And you're teaching yourself
that you matter too.

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And that's not distance, that's respect.

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They might be confused at first,
they might push back, but that's okay.

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You, you, stay soft and stay clear.

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A boundary without guilt is freedom.

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Boundaries are love.

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Love for them, love for you.

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Just draw the line and mean it.

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And please, please remember,
NO is a complete sentence.