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Welcome back to Rooted&Real.

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This is Lynda.

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We are doing 'Betrayals'.

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And today we're going to do
'Believe Them The First Time'.

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Listen, if someone shows you who they are,
believe them that first time.

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You see, we always want to give people
the benefit of the doubt, right?

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"Maybe they're having a bad day" - "Maybe
I misunderstood" - "Maybe they'll change."

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So what do we do?

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We ignore that little lie.

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We excuse the late night text.

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We explain a way how they
made us feel so small.

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And then they do it again, bigger,
because we taught them there was no

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consequences the first time, right?

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So here it is.

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Red flags aren't red flags, ati
(just) it because they're cute.

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They are warnings.

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When someone shows you they can't be
trusted with small things, please

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don't hand them your big things
and hope for (something) different.

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Believing them the first
time isn't being cold.

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It's being wise!

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It's protecting your peace before
you have to fight to get it back.

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You don't owe them 10 chances
ati (just) to prove they'll hurt you.

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Does that make sense?

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One time is enough info.

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Pay attention.

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Trust your gut and act on what
you see, not what you hope.

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To anyone who's been betrayed,
their actions were the answer.

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Believe them that first time
and choose yourself every time after that.

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Umeskiza (Did you listen)?