Welcome back to Rooted&Real.
This is Lynda.
We are doing 'Betrayals'.
And today we're going to do 'Believe Them The First Time'.
Listen, if someone shows you who they are, believe them that first time.
You see, we always want to give people the benefit of the doubt, right?
"Maybe they're having a bad day" - "Maybe I misunderstood" - "Maybe they'll change."
So what do we do?
We ignore that little lie.
We excuse the late night text.
We explain a way how they made us feel so small.
And then they do it again, bigger, because we taught them there was no
consequences the first time, right?
So here it is.
Red flags aren't red flags, ati (just) it because they're cute.
They are warnings.
When someone shows you they can't be trusted with small things, please
don't hand them your big things and hope for (something) different.
Believing them the first time isn't being cold.
It's being wise!
It's protecting your peace before you have to fight to get it back.
You don't owe them 10 chances ati (just) to prove they'll hurt you.
Does that make sense?
One time is enough info.
Pay attention.
Trust your gut and act on what you see, not what you hope.
To anyone who's been betrayed, their actions were the answer.
Believe them that first time and choose yourself every time after that.
Umeskiza (Did you listen)?